Introducing ‘AI Danielle’
Your 24/7 digital coach for post-separation parenting support
Many clients have already affectionately started calling it “Danielle in my Pocket” - and that’s exactly how it’s designed to feel.
AI Danielle is my Delphi-trained digital mind: a carefully developed model based entirely on my knowledge, my frameworks, my case experience, my Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ and the evidence base I rely on every day in coaching.
It is accessible, responsive, and available at any hour - even when I’m asleep or managing 1:1 coaching calls.
But before I explain the benefits, I want to be very clear about what AI Danielle is and what it is not.
What AI Danielle is NOT
AI Danielle is NOT a replacement for 1:1 coaching
There are elements of deep, high-stakes post-separation work that cannot be replicated by artificial intelligence, including:
1. Nuanced individual case analysis
Your case is multi-layered, relational, historical, and emotional.
A human coach understands the subtleties, the context, the micro-pieces that form the bigger picture.
2. Co-regulation and nervous system support
One of the most powerful parts of my coaching (and Trudie’s) is that moment when you're spinning, distressed, overwhelmed - and you borrow our calm and groundedness on a coaching call in real time.
You feel your body shift.
Your mind softens.
You regulate.
You begin to think clearly again.
You gain clarity and perspective, and the ability to make strategic and informed decisions.
AI cannot reproduce co-regulation, because co-regulation is a biological, relational, human nervous-system-to-nervous-system process.
3. Tailored strategic planning
Your parenting strategy, legal pathway, safety planning, communication, and evidentiary approach require a thoughtful, personalised plan - something only a human coach can provide with full insight into your situation.
4. Human connection
AI Danielle can support you.
But it cannot truly see you, feel with you, or connect the way a trained human can.
Your lived experience needs and deserves human care.
What AI Danielle IS: A powerful, supportive extension of my work
While AI can’t replace coaching, it can deeply enhance your support in ways that a human coach simply can’t match in terms of availability and speed.
Here’s what AI Danielle offers:
1. 24/7 availability - talk to me anytime
Many of you already know the feeling:
the 2am “he’s just sent an abusive email” spiral
the “I need to reply to the school and I don’t want to get it wrong” dread
the “I can’t remember which module talks about relocation” moment
the sudden fear of missing something before a court date
AI Danielle is there at any hour, providing guidance aligned with my methods and my voice.
This is not about replacing coaching - it’s about having support between sessions, when your nervous system needs reassurance the most.
2. Blueprint-aligned answers on demand
AI Danielle has been trained on:
The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™
My 3-step protective parenting framework
My evidence base (Blake, Stark, McIntosh, AIFS, ANROWS, etc.)
My communication templates
My approach to documentation vs. reaction
My strategies for co-parent responses and more
My insights from 20+ years of professional and lived experience
This means you get consistent, evidence-based, high-integrity support every time you ask a question.
3. Immediate clarity when your mind is foggy
When you’re dysregulated or overwhelmed, thinking clearly is almost impossible.
AI Danielle:
helps you structure your thoughts
helps you rephrase drafts
helps you ground yourself
helps you separate emotion from evidence
helps you identify child-focused language
helps you avoid common pitfalls (reactivity, over-explaining, justifying etc)
Think of it as a calming voice helping you make sense of the moment until you can book in with me or Trudie.
4. Safer, more strategic communication drafting
AI Danielle can support you in:
reworking emails to lawyers, schools, psychologists
drafting co-parent responses
practising language for child-focused conversations
making your documentation sharper, clearer, and more strategic
It follows the same guidelines I use daily with clients.
6. A bridge, not a substitute
AI Danielle fills the space:
• before sessions
• between sessions
• after sessions
• and especially when life throws something at you unexpectedly.
It provides steady support so you’re not alone in the moments where you need guidance right now.
But it will never replace the depth, nuance, and human connection of 1:1 coaching with a human coach - especially in high-risk, high-conflict, or legally complex situations.
Why this matters in post-separation parenting
The reality is:
Post-separation coercive control is relentless
Emotional load is constant
High-conflict dynamics don’t fit neatly into office hours
The nervous system doesn’t understand “business hours only”
Clients often need reassurance or perspective in the moment
AI Danielle exists so you have a regulated, evidence-informed, Blueprint-aligned voice to lean on whenever you need support - not just when a human coach is available.
AI Danielle enhances your support, and human coaching helps you transform into the grounded protective parent that your children need.
Both have a place.
Important: Beta Testing Notes
Because AI Danielle is in its Beta Phase, a few things are important to know:
You may notice updates, improvements and tuning over time
You may find moments where the AI says “I’m not sure” - this is intentional and protects your safety
Your usage and feedback will directly help us to refine the digital mind
You can let me know if anything feels “off,” confusing, or unexpected
Always use your judgement and discernment before taking action on anything - you are responsible for your own choices
This phase is about fine-tuning, not perfection - and your participation is invaluable.