The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™
The foundation of everything we teach - now available to all protective parents.
Whether you work with us one-on-one, or navigate your journey independently, this is where everyone starts.
The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint contains the complete framework that we use in our 1:1 coaching sessions - the 3 Steps to Protective Parenting™ methodology, Danielle’s Seven Child-Directed Coercive Control Patterns (Black, 2025), evidence-based child development and safety frameworks, capacity-building tools and more
Finally, a post-separation parenting resource that gets it right - child development and wellbeing put first - with the evidence to back it up.
“Is the Blueprint right for me?”
Yes, if you want to…
Stop second-guessing yourself.
Make decisions based on what your children actually need, backed by research
Become the advocate your children deserve.
Navigate mediation and family court with clarity, capacity, and evidence-based confidence
Access expert frameworks without being locked in to ongoing coaching costs.
Get the same strategic frameworks that my team and I use in private 1:1 coaching - available whenever you need them
The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint is designed to meet you wherever you are:
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You're scared to make the wrong decisions about your children's future. You're thinking about what might be "fair" after separation, or what the other parent might demand, but you're confused about what's actually best for your kids.
The Blueprint gives you:
Clear understanding of what children need at each developmental stage
Evidence to counter pressure for arrangements that aren't right for your kids
Strategic planning tools before you separate (the best time to start)
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You've been told that "50/50" is what's 'best' and 'fair'. You might be confused about whether the other parent has particular legal "rights" to a certain amount of parenting time. You're experiencing pressure to agree to arrangements you know aren't right - but you're not sure how to advocate credibly.
The Blueprint gives you:
The research debunking the 50/50 myth
Age-appropriate parenting arrangement frameworks
Communication scripts and strategies
How to advocate without being dismissed
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You've been made to feel "difficult" or "controlling" when you advocate for what your children need. You want reassurance you're on the right track and evidence-based arguments that can't be easily swept aside.
The Blueprint gives you:
Comprehensive documentation strategies
How to challenge inappropriate recommendations
Professional navigation skills
Legal realities and when to engage the court system
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You need to prepare for family reports, challenge recommendations, or face trial. You want to understand the system, advocate effectively, and build the capacity to sustain this fight.
The Blueprint gives you:
Module 20: Preparing for final trial (including "Capacity for Final Trial" PDF)
How to prepare for family report assessments
Understanding why professionals miss coercive control
Strategic decision-making frameworks
Nervous system regulation tools for high-stress situations
Here's the truth the others won't tell you:
Most post-separation parenting advice from other professionals ignores child development research and evidence entirely.
Shocked? Angry? You should be!
The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ gives you the information other professionals don't and it's the same framework we use when protective parents work with us for 1:1 private coaching.
Now you can access it, anytime you need it.
The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ gives you the information that other professionals don’t.
What's inside: 20+ Comprehensive Modules
Core Framework Modules
Module 1-4: Child Development Foundations
What your children actually need at each developmental stage
Age-appropriate arrangements for infants, toddlers, school-age, and teenagers
Attachment science and overnight considerations
How to factually determine who the 'primary parent' is
Module 5-9: Communication, Boundaries & Safety
Why “just communicate better” doesn't work
Co-parenting communication resource with customisable templates
Setting boundaries that protect your energy
Identifying real safety concerns (not just “conflict”)
Family violence and post-separation abuse
Substance abuse, mental health concerns
Children with additional needs
How to document patterns, not just incidents
Module 10-15: Special Circumstances & Complex Situations
Children who are resisting or refusing contact with one parent
Re-partnering and new relationships
Relocation (including international) and expat parents
Managing disinterested or disengaged parents
Module 16: Growing your Capacity
Evidence-based “brain training” that literally rewires your neural pathways (this is neuroscience, not ‘positive thinking’)
Daily practices that take 5-15 minutes but create measurable, lasting change
Understand how your nervous system state directly impacts your children's sense of safety
Learn to model emotion regulation so your children develop these skills for life
Stay grounded when your children need you most - especially during transitions and high-stress periods
Module 16 isn't self-help fluff - it's evidence-based nervous system training that gives you the internal capacity to handle meeting with report writers, hold your own with cross-examination, resist pressure to agree to harmful arrangements, and stay strategic when your children's safety is at stake. This is the difference between knowing what your children need and being able to fight for it.
Module 17: Coercive Control
Finally understand what you’re actually dealing with - not “high conflict,” but a patterned system of domination that professionals routinely miss.
Learn the 7 child-directed coercive control tactics Danielle identified through lived experience and hundreds of cases - a framework you won’t find anywhere else.
See exactly how these patterns harm your children at every age, and why courts respond completely differently when you frame evidence this way.
Stop feeling overwhelmed or gaslit and gain the language to describe what’s happening with clarity, confidence and authority.
Use the 4-layer documentation system (notes → monthly patterns → quarterly summaries → evidence packs) that family law professionals will actually take seriously.
Understand why professionals keep misidentifying coercive control, and learn how to present your case so they can’t miss it anymore.
Turn chaos into patterns and patterns into evidence, using templates and real-world examples that show you exactly what to record and how.
Recognise your own conditioned compliance and fear-based responses, and learn how to articulate this clearly in a legal context.
Shift from reactive to strategic, with practical steps that help you advocate effectively and protect your children over the long term.
Become the expert in your own case - because no one else in the system will identify, document, or explain these patterns for you.
Module 18-21: Legal Navigation & Advocacy
Challenging the ‘equal parenting’ ideology
Defending against “alienation” accusations
Challenging inappropriate or harmful parenting arrangements
Australian family law realities
When the court system may be needed
Preparing for family report assessments
Capacity-building for final trial
Guidance when advocating for your children to your legal team and others
Additional Resources:
Co-parenting communication templates
Documentation frameworks
Real parenting plan/order examples you can customise
Evidence-based research directory (perfect for research citations in affidavits and more)
• Evidence-based, not opinion-based:
Backed by child development and post-separation parenting research, not family law myths or outdated ideologies.
• Developmentally specific:
Detailed guidance for each age group, not generic “one size fits all” advice.
• Safety-focused:
Prioritises children's physical and emotional safety over adult demands and ideological concepts of “fairness”.
• Real-world tested:
Strategies successfully used by protective parents in the Australian family law system.
• Australian-specific (with global applicability)
Tailored to Australian family law while covering universal child development principles.
• Comprehensive coverage:
Addresses complex situations other resources ignore.
• Parenting-plan ready:
Actual examples of parenting plans and orders you can customise.
• Knowledge + Capacity + Advocacy:
The only resource covering all 3 essentials for protective parenting.
What makes this content truly one-of-a-kind:
Why trust the Blueprint?
Because it was created by someone who consistently helps real parents, get real results
Frequently Asked Questions
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No - post-separation parenting is a marathon, not a sprint - so the sooner you start building knowledge, capacity and advocacy skills, the better.
Starting before separation puts you way ahead. You'll:
Make better initial decisions
Set up arrangements properly from the start
Avoid common mistakes that are hard to fix later
Enter negotiations from a position of knowledge and strength
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The Blueprint isn't something you "complete" - it's designed as a living resource you return to whenever you need it.
Some parents dive into everything right away. Others focus on specific modules relevant to their current situation. Both approaches work.
Most clients:
Start with Modules 1-4 (child development foundations)
Regularly check-in with Module 16: Growing your Capacity
Work through modules relevant to their specific situation
Return to modules repeatedly as circumstances change
Use Module 20 intensively when preparing for trial
Reference communication templates regularly
Think of it as a reference library, not a course with a finish line.
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Self-study, so you can access it anytime, work at your own pace, and return to modules whenever you need them.
Want personalised support?
Book a strategy session to explore coaching packages
All coaching packages include the Blueprint
If you've already purchased the Blueprint, you'll receive a $500 credit
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Written lessons: Well-structured modules for easy learning and reference
Downloadable PDFs: Bonus resources, checklists, templates, frameworks
Audio resources: Guided meditations and affirmations for capacity building
Real examples: Actual parenting plans and orders you can customise
Mobile-friendly: Access on any device, anywhere
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Lifetime access - meaning years, not months.
Plus you'll receive all future updates and new content as it's added.
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The Blueprint and 1:1 coaching services are priced in Australian dollars (AUD).
You can check the latest conversion rates at xe.com
More Questions? No problem!
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Excellent question - you're making a smart strategic choice.
Here's how it works:
You purchase the Blueprint
You work through relevant modules
If you later want personalised support, book a 1:1 coaching session with either Danielle or Trudie
Your coach recommends standalone coaching sessions, or a coaching package (all packages include the Blueprint)
You receive a $500 credit toward your chosen package (please note, you aren’t losing out with this option as the Blueprint’s full cost is not part of the standard package price).
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Absolutely.
While some content reflects Australian family law, the majority of the Blueprint focuses on universal principles:
Child development research
Attachment science
Age-appropriate arrangements
Capacity building
Communication strategies
Documentation approaches
Safety assessment
These fundamentals apply to children worldwide and can be used in most developed countries.
Modules especially valuable internationally:
Modules 1-4 (child development)
Modules 5-9 (safety, communication, boundaries and special circumstances)
Module 16 (capacity building)
The reference & resource directory
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Yes. The Blueprint was specifically designed for complex, high-conflict protective parenting situations.
It covers:
Family violence and coercive control
Substance abuse and mental health concerns
Supervised contact situations
'No contact' cases
Children refusing contact
Relocation (including international)
Defending against alienation accusations
Preparing for trial
Challenging inappropriate family report recommendations
My background:
The Blueprint content is underpinned by my extensive experience with the most complex cases, including:
Relocation (including international)
'No contact' cases
Supervised-time only cases
Cases involving serious physical violence, sexual abuse, and simultaneous criminal proceedings
High-profile clients (television, music and film personalities)
If your situation is complex, you need this even more.
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Yes - because lawyers and therapists can't give you what the Blueprint provides.
What lawyers CAN'T give you:
Evidence-based child development frameworks
Detailed age-appropriate arrangement guidance
Communication templates and scripts
Capacity-building tools for emotion and nervous system regulation
Strategic documentation approaches
Understanding of why professionals miss coercive control
What therapists CAN'T give you:
Legal navigation skills
Strategic family court preparation
How to advocate credibly with professionals
Frameworks for decision-making about arrangements
Evidence-based arguments for age-appropriate plans
What the Blueprint DOES give you:
Actionable tools lawyers assume you already have
Evidence-based frameworks to guide your decisions
Capacity-building tools to sustain you through the process
Strategic preparation that makes your legal representation more effective
The Blueprint complements professional support - it doesn't replace it.
Start building your strategy today
Not taking proactive action can feel very comfortable, but I’ve been doing this work long enough to know that the brain that got you where you are right now, is not the brain that is going to get you out - at least, not without high-level expert help - the kind of high-level help that only comes from someone who has successfully done it themselves.
That’s what separates the Blueprint, and the coaches at Danielle Black Coaching, apart from everything and everyone else in the post-separation space - we’ve been where you are now, and we know what it takes to get out safely - and how to optimise outcomes.
Think of us as your tour guides,
and the Blueprint as your map.
Are you a professional who supports others in the post-separation space?
Standard Blueprint pricing and content is designed for personal family use only. Commercial or professional use requires Professional Edition licensing.
The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™: Professional Edition is underway, and is specifically designed for family lawyers, counsellors, mediators, social workers, and other professionals working with separating families.
The Professional Edition provides evidence-based frameworks and practical tools that will enhance your professional development and inform your practice with clients navigating post-separation parenting challenges.
Professional Edition includes:
The core modules from the original Blueprint
Additional professional application guides
Research directory with full citations for professional use
Framework licensing for use in your organisation or practice
Investment: Professional Edition pricing reflects the commercial value of this intellectual property for professional development and client application.